Sunday, February 15, 2015




DATING...MEN...RELATIONSHIPS

HMMMM...I DON'T KNOW MUCH, BUT I DO KNOW A LITTLE ABOUT THIS TOPIC.
I FIGURED SINCE I'M GOING TO BE TEACHING A CLASS ON THIS SUBJECT, PERHAPS A FEW WORDS ABOUT IT ARE IN ORDER. KEEP IN MIND, THIS IS A RAMBLING.

MEN. THEY ARE AN INTERESTING GROUP OF HUMANS. NOT ALL THE SAME, OF COURSE BUT A COMMON THEME HAS SHOWN UP IN MY DATING. THEY LIKE WOMAN WHO ARE ENGAGING. THEY'RE INITIALLY ATTRACTED TO PRETTY WOMAN BUT, IF YOU CAN HOLD THEIR ATTENTION FOR LONGER THEN 30 MINUTES, YOU MIGHT HAVE A CHANCE. THEY ALSO LIKE WOMAN WHO ARE KIND AND ATTENTIVE. NO SAD SACKS OR DUDS. GUYS LIKE FUN TOO! THEY WANNA PLAY! THEY MAY WANT TO PLAY CHESS, THEY MAY WANT TO BE OUTSIDE, OR PLAY FRISBEE GOLF. THEY ALL LIKE TO PLAY TANGLE YOU IN THE SHEETS AND KISS SOMETHING. 

MEN ARE PRETTY SIMPLE WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT. NOT SIMPLE MINDED MIND YOU, BUT NOT QUITE AS ANALYTICAL AS WOMEN ARE IN PICKING A PARTNER. THEY DO NEED TO LIKE YOU, FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE, AND THEY NEED TO FEEL NEEDED AND OR APPRECIATED. THEY LIKE TO FEEL IMPORTANT TO YOU. THEY LIKE TO FEEL THAT YOU'RE GOING TO STICK AROUND, THAT YOU'RE NOT GOING TO !@#$%^&* AROUND. TO BE UNFAITHFUL TO A MAN COULD BE LIKE HAVING A BEST FRIEND, STAB THEM IN THE BACK, IN A DARK ALLEY. IT CUTS DEEP.
THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT MEN CHEATING ON A WOMAN DOESN'T HURT AS BAD, IT'S DIFFERENT. IF YOU'D LIKE TO KNOW WHY THEN I'LL GIVE YOU MY OPINION. FOR NOW, TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.

I LOVE MEN. AND THIS DOESN'T MEAN I'M MAN CRAZY. IT MEANS, I'M NOT A MAN HATER. I APPRECIATE MEN AND THEIR GIFTS. THEY HAVE THE ABILITY TO GROUND US, SAVE US FROM OURSELVES AND TO OPEN US IN A WAY ONLY THEY CAN.
I HAVE GREAT ADORATION FOR THEIR AMBITION. THEIR DRIVE TO PRODUCE, TO CREATE AND TO BUILD, "TO TELL THEIR STORY." THEY HAVE A WONDERFUL TALENT FOR MAKING SOMETHING FROM NOTHING. THEY HAVE THE ABILITY TO MAKE A FAMILY, A HOME, AND LIFE OUT OF NOTHING, BY JUST SIMPLY CHOOSING IT. 

DATING.    OH DATING. I COULD WRITE VOLUMES ON THIS SUBJECT. PERHAPS I WILL. THE RULES, THE HOW TO, MARS AND VENUS. LORD! GIVE US A FUCKING BREAK. THE TRUTH IS. WE ARE HUMAN. WE CONNECT TO OTHER HUMANS, OR WE DO NOT. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER IS TO BE TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE. IF YOU'RE TRYING TO BE SOMEONE ELSE TO CATCH HIM, YOU'VE ALREADY LOST. IF HE IS INTO YOU, HE WILL BE INTO AGAIN AND AGAIN. HAHAHA. BASICALLY, THERE'S A CONNECTION OR THERE ISN'T.

THAT BEING SAID. I HAVE FOUND THAT GENERALLY, IF YOU SLEEP WITH A MAN TO SOON IT CAN KILL IT. BUT, IF THEY WERE JUST LOOKING TO GET LAID, IT WAS OVER BEFORE IT BEGAN. MEN LIKE A CHALLENGE, AND THEY WILL HOLD OUT FOR QUITE SOME TIME TO GET WHAT THEY WANT.
BUT, THIS DOES NOT MEAN IT'S A SURE THING. IT GOES BACK TO THE ENGAGEMENT PART. IF YOU CAN HAVE A MAN ENGAGED, YOU MAY HAVE A CHANCE. THERE ARE MANY TYPES OF ENGAGEMENT, AS MANY AS THERE ARE MEN OUT THERE. IT MAY BE YOUR SMILE, YOUR LAUGH, A SUBJECT, SIMILAR INTERESTS, YOUR BOOBS. YOU NEVER KNOW. WOMEN NEED TO BE THEMSELVES AND THEN THAT PART IS EASY. MEN ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS BE SWEET AND SINCERE. AND FOR GOD SAKE, BE HONEST. DON'T BE A RUDE !@#$%^&*. APPROACH HER FOR GOD SAKE! TOUCH HER ONCE IN AWHILE. YOU TOO GIRLS, IF YOU LIKE HIM, TOUCH HIM. 

OK LADIES, THIS ONES FOR YOU. GUYS LET ME KNOW IF THIS IS TRUE. IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHETHER A GUY IS INTO A RELATIONSHIP OR NOT, LISTEN TO HIS WORDS, AND WATCH HIS ACTIONS. THEY SPEAK VOLUMES. HE WILL SEE YOU IF HE IS INTO YOU. IF HE DOESN'T MAKE PLANS WITH YOU, PROBABLY NOT INTO IT FOR VERY LONG. IF HE DOES FUTURE TALK, HE WILL MOSTLY BE LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP. BUT, YOU DON'T NEED TO KNOW RIGHT AWAY. YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IF YOU WANT TO HANG OUT WITH THIS GUY FOR MONTHS, LET ALONE YEARS. JUST HAVE FUN AND SEE. THAT'S WHY ITS CALLED DATING.






WOMAN AND MEN CAN MAKE IT. WE ARE MEANT TO CO-CREATE AND TO PARTNER AND BUILD THINGS TOGETHER. I TRULY BELIEVE THIS. WE ARE MEANT TO PARTNER AND SEE NEW HORIZONS, ENRICH EACH OTHERS LIVES. BEING A SWEET PLACE FOR ANOTHER TO LAND AND SHARE.
THIS IS REAL IN ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP STRAIGHT, GAY... ANY. COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY AND MUTUAL RESPECT. 
WHEN WE LET HURTS FROM OTHER RELATIONSHIPS INTO A NEW ONE, WE ARE DOING A GREAT DISSERVICE TO OURSELVES AND THAT NEW PERSON. THIS IS A CHALLENGE, BUT SO WORTH IT IF YOU CAN NAVIGATE THE SHIP LONG ENOUGH TO FIND CALM WATERS AND A NEW ISLAND. OUR PROJECTIONS ONTO OTHERS ONLY MAKE IT MORE CHALLENGING TO NAVIGATE. THERE ARE TO MANY OBSTACLES. A CLEAN SLATE IS NEEDED. AND NO MORE HATING.
I'M TIRED OF WOMAN BASHING MEN, NO MATTER WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO THEM IN THE PAST. THAT WAS THEN. AND MEN STOP CALLING US CRAZY. 
WE AREN'T CRAZY. WE'RE LOVELY AND SOFT AND SWEET AND FUN AND SEXY AND SMART AND FULL OF LOVE. WE MAY HAVE BEEN HURT, AND NOT DONE BEING HURT, BUT WE AREN'T NUTS. 



THE BOTTOM LINE IS. WE ARE ALL HUMAN. WE ALL WANT LOVE AND NEED LOVE TO SURVIVE AND TO THRIVE. IT'S TIME TO START BEING WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE. IT'S TIME TO BE YOURSELF AND LOVE THAT RAD PERSON. THEN PERHAPS YOU CAN REFLECT THAT SWEETNESS FOR SOMEONE ELSE. THAT IS WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT, THE BEAUTIFUL REFLECTION OF CARING AND EMPATHY AND JOY AND SEXINESS AND CONNECTEDNESS. THAT IS A TRUE RELATIONSHIP. NURTURING THE REFLECTION OF ADORATION.